There's nothing wrong with coming out. I suppose Philjonc is just referring to Rustom's extraordinary transformation. You have to admit, not everyone who comes out goes all out--complete with a name change, appearance change, and quite possibly, a sex change.
I can only imagine what Carmina went through, upon slowly realizing that the man she married is gay. And Carmina was the girl of my dreams when I was a kid watching 13-14-15.